Precious Sheri,
Being "out of sorts" is okay. In fact, it's very normal when you are dealing with the deck you have been dealt. All of those 'negative' feelings come from the sum of all the changes you have in your new life. While laughter, good humor and smiles are the "politically correct" expressions of our culture, tears, fears, anger and sadness have jumped head first into your lives.Go ahead and allow yourself the luxury of feeling all those things and more.
News Flash! ...Sheri is human... and we couldn't love you more! God is there with you no matter what your mood. HE gave you all those feelings. Yes, it's important to not put undo stress on Steve. But you know what? He already knows what you're going through. In the wonderful 8 years you've had together, he's learned how to "read" you no matter what. Give him the honor of sharing all these new feelings that have cratered your life.
Let Steve know he has a purpose to fight for. God put Steve in you life because HE knew you would be Steve's soul-mate. Keeping important things like food choices, finances, etc., just isn't healthy for either of you. I know you just want to protect him, but please know from someone who's been through some really tough times; Steve and you are a Team...good or bad times.
Steve wants to believe that you will be okay when he dies. Tell him all your fears. Honesty will strengthen your relationship with Steve and the Lord. The Lord will carry you through this no matter how bad it gets. Please confide in Steve. Let him feel your anger, fears and pains. God put him in place just for This task at This time in your life!
I hope I'm not stepping on any toes here. I'm trying to help you see the power that you and Steve "the couple" share. It has been pressed onto me the level of your strength as a couple. I know how strong you are as a person. Just behold the power you have as a couple facing this agonizing task together!
My love and compassion and empathy I give to you. (And so does the Lord!)
Mama June
August 21, 2008 11:03 AM
Being "out of sorts" is okay. In fact, it's very normal when you are dealing with the deck you have been dealt. All of those 'negative' feelings come from the sum of all the changes you have in your new life. While laughter, good humor and smiles are the "politically correct" expressions of our culture, tears, fears, anger and sadness have jumped head first into your lives.Go ahead and allow yourself the luxury of feeling all those things and more.
News Flash! ...Sheri is human... and we couldn't love you more! God is there with you no matter what your mood. HE gave you all those feelings. Yes, it's important to not put undo stress on Steve. But you know what? He already knows what you're going through. In the wonderful 8 years you've had together, he's learned how to "read" you no matter what. Give him the honor of sharing all these new feelings that have cratered your life.
Let Steve know he has a purpose to fight for. God put Steve in you life because HE knew you would be Steve's soul-mate. Keeping important things like food choices, finances, etc., just isn't healthy for either of you. I know you just want to protect him, but please know from someone who's been through some really tough times; Steve and you are a Team...good or bad times.
Steve wants to believe that you will be okay when he dies. Tell him all your fears. Honesty will strengthen your relationship with Steve and the Lord. The Lord will carry you through this no matter how bad it gets. Please confide in Steve. Let him feel your anger, fears and pains. God put him in place just for This task at This time in your life!
I hope I'm not stepping on any toes here. I'm trying to help you see the power that you and Steve "the couple" share. It has been pressed onto me the level of your strength as a couple. I know how strong you are as a person. Just behold the power you have as a couple facing this agonizing task together!
My love and compassion and empathy I give to you. (And so does the Lord!)
Mama June
August 21, 2008 11:03 AM
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